Congratulations, Coach! Your client made it! They got that promotion! (Or won that election, maybe?). And yet… now… they seem uncertain. “I was lucky,” they tell you. They were in the right place at the right time, and it might all come tumbling down tomorrow when people discover that they are really not all that and a bag of chips. Maybe not even the bag of chips.
Part of thought leadership is sharing your thoughts with the world and pointing the conversation to where you think others should be looking. That’s why I try to post regularly to our CTI social media feeds. This month, I was struggling to write a blog post. I was searching for a topic to latch onto and panicking as I approached my deadline. Lo and behold, I was in a meeting with my staff who reminded me about a video that had been shared across the company about Tom Brokaw. While this post is no different than others, it felt important to acknowledge that my voice is the voice of the many who power CTI behind the scenes. Thought leadership comes from all of us, and I am proud to represent our voices.
Recently, I’ve had the opportunity to reflect on and grow my comfort level with a skill that is much, much harder to manifest than it should be, at least for me. The importance of not talking, of deliberately letting quiet hold sway, manifested in my life in unexpected ways that ultimately have helped me become a better coach. It took a couple of experiences, of life lessons, to bring home exactly how important it can be.
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Organizational leaders tend to believe that people will trust them more if they are always certain and clear with ready solutions for difficult problems. In reality, the opposite is true. When the courage to risk failure and the transparency of owning mistakes is balanced with a clear commitment to learning, trust grows quickly.
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When I was 19, I was at a crossroads in my life. I was clinically depressed. I had suicidal ideations, and I was self-medicating with alcohol and drugs. It’s as if the light had gone out of my eyes, and I was escaping the pain of childhood trauma. If I had continued down this path, I have no doubt that I wouldn’t be alive today. I was given the opportunity for an alternate ending, one that offered a way out of the pain and darkness and a chance of hope. I chose hope and thus began my journey back to my heart.
Sometimes, life can feel heavy. The heaviness can be particularly evident if we are working in challenging environments or with challenging content. I remember when I used to work in the charity sector supporting women who had experienced some form of violence, I’d take that heavy feeling home with me. The heaviness seemed to seep into all areas of my life. I’d try and run it off, or drink it off, but it followed me around and eventually took it’s toll and I felt I had to leave the sector.
I’m always looking for great examples of Co-Active Leadership in action.
In 1992, I hired Henry (not-yet-Kimsey) House as my coach. At that point, CTI had just been birthed, a twinkle of an idea the founders were busy dreaming into existence. And like so many of us, my life was changed forever when I got a taste of (not-yet-Co-Active) coaching.